Those pesky internal monologues! They are the ones you’re thinking of. They speak in hushed tones of condemnation and uncertainty. When we answer their question, “Who do you believe you are?” they become defensive.
Ignorance is bliss: and “How could you be so clueless?” To put it bluntly, they are experts at making us feel inadequate. And gradually, without our noticing it, we lose faith in ourselves, our abilities, and our prior beliefs about the world.
It’s not your fault, and you’re not alone. There are numerous contributing reasons for a loss of self-assurance.
According to a recent study published in Psychology Today, we could be losing confidence for a variety of reasons, including our genetic make-up, our life experiences, and the messages we receive from the media.
If we feel our confidence dwindling, what can we do about it? The correct response is “a lot.”
1. Discuss the issue with a close friend.
When awful things occur and you feel off-kilter, you can’t keep your emotions bottled up and let them destroy you. Indecision is nourished by pressure and loneliness.
Probably the person you’re hardest on is yourself. As a result, allow yourself some relief. Engage in a conversation with a person who values and appreciates you.
Feel free to vent your anger and discuss the situation in depth. Get a hug and a good shake so you can get back to being the pro you really are.
2. Resuming your duties is a need.
There is no easy solution. Like trust, confidence is hard to gain but easy to lose. To succeed, you must just focus on the task at hand. Only success can make you feel more sure of yourself.
Being better makes you feel better about yourself. Confidence is a byproduct of competence. Having accomplished something significant in your chosen industry, or even in another, might boost your self-assurance.
So, get back to work and start succeeding once more; this will help restore your self-assurance.
3. Savor temporary triumphs.
Confidence is easily shaken and might take time to recover from after a major setback. It’s crucial that you retrieve it as soon as possible.
Begin with little, simple victories and aim for larger ones as the week progresses. Confidence will return to you shortly. “He’s the guy who leads,”
4. Consider prior achievements again.
We’ve all been guilty of disappointing someone at some point, and when that happens, we tend to take it far more personally than they do.
It’s funny how one small setback can make you forget about a thousand fantastic accomplishments. Self-criticism serves no one and simply serves to reinforce your own sense of failure.
Get over it by remembering all the times you kept your word and helped make the world a better place.
5. Identify the Cause
Understanding the root cause of your confidence crisis is essential for stopping the slide and rebuilding your self-assurance.
So, it’s important to tune into your surroundings, thoughts, actions, and relationships to pinpoint the negative influences in your life.
6. Recognize Your True Identity
I know. This either seems too easy or too difficult and maybe frightening to even consider. All the folks I’ve coached, though, have found the experience to be quite empowering.
Taking an honest stock of one’s own life is what this means. Get a piece of paper. Put down on paper how old you are.
Individual years or groups of years can be studied in five- or ten-year increments, beginning at any age. It makes no difference how you go about it. It’s crucial that you are honest with yourself when doing so.
The human mind has a natural propensity to dwell on and dwell upon the negative: past hurts, adverse experiences, and self-perceived shortcomings.
The objective of this exercise is to make you reflect on your past actions and how they contributed to your current position.
Every second counts. Nothing to pick and choose among. You just put it all down on paper.
7. Escape confidence eroding environment
Have you been unable to escape a work setting where you continuously feel your self-assurance being chipped away?
What other people believe, do, and say about us has an effect on us, whether we like it or not. Your self-assurance may suffer if the people around you at work do not encourage and support you.
It’s important to remember, first and foremost, that the views of others are not necessarily accurate. Those are just their personal thoughts.
To determine whether or not there is learning to be done, ask yourself if this situation presents any challenges. Some of us may use some lessons in self-improvement or some training in a new skill.
The best way to improve the things you can control is to get a reliable buddy to assist you to take an objective look at the problem. Drop the other stuff.
You are likely aware, on some level, that you are a powerful and competent human being. Using it, have faith in yourself, and get back on your feet.
If you wait around for validation from outside sources, you will never receive it. Pitt, Michael
You’ll need to keep your head down and ignore the critics once you’ve decided what to work on improving and what to let go of.
It takes a lot of emotional fortitude to operate in an environment like this (if you have to), but if you have a great objective, other support in your life, or belief in yourself, then you can endure.
Don’t lose your bearings and don’t let the actions of others convince you that their viewpoint is correct.